It took more than 3 1/2 years and several appeals for the Social Security Administration to recognize the marriage of Ed Gentzler and William Parker.The acknowledgment came only after Gentzler lost the man he had loved the most in his life.Gentzler applied for widower’s insurance benefits after his husband, Bill, succumbed to cancer. The Social Security Administration did not accept their marriage and refused Gentzler’s request.Parker died in 2014, nearly five years after the two married in Iowa.“This weighed heavily on my heart for a long time, especially when the benefit denials would come on the anniversary of Bill’s death,” Gentzler said.